Do these things really happen?
If I hadn’t blogged about hide,
IF I hadn’t even blogged at all about impermanence?
,,, or talking about change…how it can happen in an
… a moment can change you..
or if you put all of these things together….
If I hadn’t written about how hide can inspire a moment and create
IF hadn’t done that just yesterday….. you probably wouldn’t
you probably would have thought that I made this up because
of the name of the business on this business card I am posting here….
Design Your Life.
Doesn’t that all to well reflect what I have been blogging about
the past two days?
Imagine then that the person who is behind that letter “H”
approached me tonight at Shibuya station and asked if I
was a fan of hide.
Now look below, and you see that very video…..not the incense one…
the one below…
YES the one with all the people crossing …
That crossing is at Shibuya Station….
The ride between Shibuya station and Shinjuku takes 7 minutes!!!
YUP that’s all we could talk, and we swapped business cards.
My “Pink Spider” one for your “Blue Sky Complex” …
You cannot exchange much information in 7 minutes, what you can do |
is merely to exchange information, and think that maybe the other
person was also intrigued enough by this meeting, to try to find you online,
or at least not deny a possible add-request from you, IF you find them!
After Shinjuku station it takes me about 7-10 more minutes to get home.
I walk from the Yamanote train car and change lines to Odakyu line
and then I need to walk home and up to 4th floor. I live extremely close
to the Sangubashi station.
Funky thing is that I had spent the evening first with my Japanese friend,
who helped me print out some documents, and then he came with me
while I ate a lighter dinner, and we talked.
It felt good to reconnect and I was HAPPY to see him again.
We spent 3 hours chatting about his upcoming trip, and about my
recent friendship issues.
He is the one who has made so much of my stay here in Japan possible.
He is also a special friend because we share the love for X-Japan
and we met in Yokosuka after my first visit at Miura Reien so yes,
he is a special friend to me.
Meaning I truly believe hide made the connection between us.
Made it happen!
After meeting with my friend I went on to a drinking kind of meeting,
that didn’t flow quite as easily, at least not for me.
I was meeting up with a French man who showed interest in going
and seeing BUCK-TICK with me next week.
When I say it didn’t flow, it is most likely because it cannot be very easy
for anyone (esp Western males?) to meet me first time.
Well, if you are Japanese most Westerners are oddballs anyway,
but if you are European like me, you probably don’t know what to
make out of this woman you have in front of you.
I don’t fit into any box.
This man was no exception. I could sense that my dress-code
and my vocabulary just didn’t add up in his mind. My rock interests,
my pink hair and my big black mask in the face, just doesn’t rhyme well
with my perceived age, my actual professional career(s) or
my academic background. (and “I talk it too”).
It was a polite and no-harm-done-kind-of-meeting,
but there was absolutely no connection over the 1,5 hours we met.
I don’t blame him.
I’m not surprised either, and I did have an alright time!
He told me, when I asked about it, a little about his job,
about his home country and about his daughter and wife.
Then we both felt like this was nice, but lets go now, and he paid
kindly (stating the fact that I am giving him a ticket so he should pay
for my wine) and we left. Surface, surface, surface… not letting the
other person know, that you too found this a waste of time!
so… I left, and walked in at the Shibuya Station….
I had my head phones on SUPER LOUD, to try to think clearly
about Vagu*Project and BUCK-TICK dang…
BUCK-TICK’s LIVE that I wanted to go for sooo long is at the
same night as a Vagu gig … but then again Vagu plays an additional
two more times in December… I just have to see BUCK-TICK….
you just cannot miss a show like that, especially not for a small
unknown band that plays at a LIVE HOUSE where you will go again
and again… or can you?
When I was standing there waiting for the Yamanote train,
all absorbed in in my own world and thinking of hide….
suddenly I SAW a guy talking to me.
Yes I did NOT hear him ha ha
I gestured back that I couldn’t hear a thing because I had,
at that moment, MUCC blasting in my ears, and I hurried turning the
…and there is where this blog started… so first a 3 hour meeting,
then a 1,5 hr meeting and the a 7 MINUTES meeting….
with three different men, three different kinds of meetings….
when I got home I found the H-man on twitter and Facebook,
and sent a request, I swear it wasn’t even a minute later when
the adds were done.
His second message was this:
“ME TOO!! Very wonderful night! Thanxxx!!!”
It was his reply to when I said that I was happy to have met him…
Then I was also thinking for myself that I felt a very special connection
with someone who opens a conversation with:
Are you a fan of hide?
and then gives me a Business Card that says:
“DESIGN your life”
I mean it was just weird….in a good way!
Now this is a young guy, and I’m not saying there was a romantic
click or something like that, but it was a MAGIC click,
and it was definitely a moment that CHANGED me..
it changed my MODE,
it changed my system…
it rather SHOOK me awake… that after blogging about:
- DESIGN your life
- and where are the guys….?
all just suddenly all of this came the freaking NEXT DAY!!!!
The other thing that freaked me out was that the long talk with
the first friend was to a large extent about HONESTY!
We talked about it and how important it is for both of us,
especially after sorting out that friendship mess,
and guess what H-san from train writes after the first nice message
I cited above…???
He continues and writes this:
You are honest. That’s the most important thing of all.
so oh well….
no wonder people believe in this soul mate hunting thing….
THINGS Like this obviously happens….
and they HAPPEN when you least expect it!
IF YOU JUST DARE to let it happen!
This my friends is the way I LOVE TO DESIGN MY LIFE!!!!!